I recently had the honor of spending a couple of days with a group of people where I was at least 25 years older than my ‘peers’. Most of them referred to me as “M’am” or “Miss Lisa”. They said things like, “I think it’s so cool that someone your age still…”.
It was a startling shift. Not bad – just a shift.
This shift and Christmas prompted another one.
My 85-year-old mom spent a week with me over the holydays. I had the opportunity to witness her JOY when she figured out my DVR remote AND find an earring she’d lost earlier in the day. Little things, sure. And huge things – to her confidence and sense of self.
Mom and I took the opportunity to talk about a lot during her visit. We talked about the mystery of why people now need to carry cell phones with them where ever they go. We talked about the grace of a good handshake and looking people in the eye. We talked about how to engage in genuine conversation in an instant message/texting world.
Witnessing Mom’s triumphs and listening to the opinions and observations of a woman who walked to grade school in London during The Blitz, helped me see how I want to live into this new part of my life – the part where I don’t understand A LOT and choose to move forward (sometimes in fear) anyway.
My earlier shift coupled with the shift I felt in witnessing Mom helps me name that while The World changes, Life doesn’t. Life keeps moving forward in exactly the same way it always has. The World is just where Life happens.
Life will always provide lessons – when we’re willing to accept them. We get to choose which tools The World offers us will help me move forward in the way we want. And we get to let go of feeling “too old to…” or “less than…” when we choose to talk to the person in front of us without texting another simultaneously.
What shifts have you felt lately?