sounds of silence…

My word for this year is LEARN.  

So it just makes sense to use this Year of Sundays to reflect on 52 of my most significant Life Lessons.   Some may seem more significant than others, but each one has changed how I live my life in powerful way.   I’d love to hear if and how any of these same lessons have surfaced in the classroom of Your Life.

lesson44Silence is often the best response.

In my experience, some problems can and must be solved.  Some, though, simply need to be voiced.

My sweetie Tom and I often ponder this Lesson.  Tom is a fixer.  So when I express and concern, quandry or problem – he usually shifts into fix-it mode.   More often than not, I don’t want help fixing it.  I just want to vent.

Over the years, we’re finding a better balance with this.  I’m getting better at specifically saying, “I just need you to listen”  or “I need your help fixing something.”  And Tom’s better at responding accordingly.

It’s tougher for me to discern what others need.   Sometimes it’s obvious or I can ask what the person needs from me.  Other times – not so much.   So I try to err on the side of silence.

How about you?

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4 thoughts on “sounds of silence…

  1. Hey, I’ve got all kinds of tools in my shop. I love to fix stuff. But that “listening” thing….well, I’m still trying to find the right tools for that. Been all over Lowe’s looking, but apparently they don’t have any tools for that. I guess it’s because mostly men go there. 🙂 So I just keep trying.

  2. this is one tough lesson……. not even Simon and Garfunkel got it right! But the song sure is a good one!!! 🙂

  3. Oh, Lisa! No man has anything on me in the fixit department. I auto jump to fix!!! But I am learning. One of my teachers was my daughter. While she battled leukemia for 20 months, we spent probably 16 or those months together full time. Jen was excellent at listening without the need to fix, but she was also a brilliant listener without judgement. Often, I knew she held a much different opinion than the one talking, but she could allow them their “way” without feeling like she had to enlighten them!! Just the way of her heart, refined by practice. I do my best, now that she is gone, to think, how might. Jen approach this. It helps

  4. Tom, fix on, Dear One…

    Judi, 🙂

    Shelley, what an honor that you’d share The Jen Approach with us. what a wonderFULL teacher she continues to be… ❤

    THANKS to all of you who shared here and all who've shared more privately. sacred lessons, indeed…

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